Dreams and goals in life
John Gottman and Julie Schwartz are American researchers who have listed the most common life dreams of the thousands of couples they have worked with.
Alone or with your partner, look at the list and discuss it.
When your partner talks about the dreams that resonate with her or him, don’t be pragmatic (yet): start by asking questions to understand.
Why is this important to you?
Is there a story behind this dream that I don’t know about?
Is there an important value or belief for you associated with this life dream?
Is this goal connected in any way to your past?
If this goal was not accomplished, is there a fear or a disaster scenario related?
The experience of peace
Unity with nature
Exploring who I am
Adventure
A spiritual journey
Justice
Honor
Unity with my past
Healing
Knowing my family
Becoming all I can be
Having a sense of power
Dealing with my aging
Exploring a creative side of myself
Becoming more powerful
Getting over past hurts
Becoming more competent
Asking God for forgiveness
Exploring an old part of myself I have lost
Getting over a personal hang up
Having a sense of order
Being able to be productive
A place and a time to just « be »
Being able to truly relax
Reflecting on my life
Getting my priorities in order
A sense of freedom
Finishing something important
Exploring the physical side of myself
Being able to compete and win
Travel
Quietness
Building something important
Saying goodbye to something
Ending a chapter of my life
Love