Some of my clients talk about sex like it’s opening night in Vegas — all pressure, no room for error. They’re not making love; they’re auditioning. If that’s you, maybe it’s time to exit the Sex Olympics and enter something softer: existence mode. Where pleasure isn’t a performance, and connection doesn’t need a scorecard.

When your partner shares good news — a promotion, a creative win, a breakthrough — how do you respond? According to a powerful UCLA study, that moment says more about your relationship than you think. It’s not just about being supportive. It’s about whether your joy feels safe, celebrated, and amplified. Most of my exes were kind, well-meaning people. But their “meh” reactions to my excitement left me feeling like I was too much — or worse, alone. And weirdly, my platonic friends were the ones cheering the loudest. That study helped me name something I’d always felt but never understood: love isn't just about being there when things fall apart — it's about showing up when things go right.

Most of the work I do in my practice could be summed up like this: I help men get in touch with their emotions without feeling weak. And I help women become more assertive without feeling guilty.

When you zoom out, it becomes clear — I’m just helping people integrate the traits they've been taught belong to “the other gender.” But strength isn’t masculine. Sensitivity isn’t feminine. They’re just human traits we all need access to.

Psychological androgyny isn’t about being neutral — it’s about being whole. And in a world that rewards flexibility, balance, and range, wholeness is power.

Most people walk into couples therapy hoping to fix things. But sometimes, the most loving outcome isn't reconciliation — it's a graceful ending. In my office, I’ve seen breakups happen not because there was no love, but because love alone wasn’t enough. This post explores three common types of breakups I witness in real life — and why, in each case, letting go is sometimes the bravest, kindest thing two people can do.

We praise ambition like it's always a virtue — but what if what’s driving you isn't as noble as it looks? Some ambition is rooted in purpose. Some is just high-functioning panic. This article explores the difference — and why both can coexist in the same overbooked calendar.

Most of us try to avoid regret, but what if it’s actually one of the most honest teachers we have? According to author Daniel H. Pink, regret reveals what truly matters to us—what we value, long for, or wish we had done differently. Whether it’s the career risk we never took, the friendship we let slip away, or the apology we never gave, our regrets are not random. They fall into four deep, universal patterns—and understanding them can be the beginning of real transformation.

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Ready to dive deep into your relationship? Here's a thought-provoking list of questions designed to spark reflection, uncover insights, and help you truly understand where you stand.

In this article, you'll find a non-exhaustive list of goals and dreams that individuals have throughout their lives. See which ones you have already accomplished and which ones remain to be achieved.

As you reflect, ask yourself: does your current relationship help or hinder the achievement of these goals?

In this article, you’ll learn how I assess the strength of a couple based on Dr. Gottman’s research. His framework is grounded in over forty years of research conducted on thousands of couples, providing a proven foundation for understanding relationship dynamics and stability.

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RSVP : quality time and quality conversation! In this article, you’ll find a guided conversation about your sex life to have with your partner, featuring prompts designed to facilitate a smooth and engaging discussion.